RE-BLOG; “Men’s Variety” Explains Otters in a Fairly Good and Comprehensive Article

From the online magazine Men’s Variety comes this fairly good/comprehensive essay explaining what “otters,” a subgroup of gay men, are. It is good information for gay romance writers as well as anyone who might be interested! The author seems to have a type. My husband “R” is “technically” more an otter than a bear, but he likes being a part of that community. Enjoy…!

Gay Otters: Learn About the Hairy Relative of Wolves and Bears!

Gay Otters Are So Cute!

Gay otters represent one of the largest swath of men within the gay classification system. With hairy features that give off a magnetic vibe, they are hard to ignore. Gay otters are adorable and often very playful.

If you’ve never heard of the term, gay otter, we’re going to define it for you. And if you already classify yourself as an “otter type” or want to deepen your insight about this type of male, this guide is for you!

In this article, you’ll learn:

Definition of gay otter
Etiology of label
Information about the gay otter flag
Common body features of otters
Common facial traits
Typical otter clothing
Gay otter mannerisms
Self-care tips for otters
Male celebrity otter examples
Gay otter myths
Otters and gay labels


Gay Otter: A man with think or thickish athletic build that usually has lots of body hair. Typically, this hair covers various parts of the torso, including the chest and stomach. Some otters also have hair on the arms, back and butt.

Gay otters differ from their gay wolf relatives in that wolves are typically more muscular. There can be crossover between the both typologies because they share similar characteristics.

In addition to being hairy, “otters” are often thought of as a “masculine” type. They can be top or bottom and many identify as versatile.

Gay otters can be of any age, usually starting from mid-20’s to later adulthood. They can be of any racial or ethnic background.

Otters are not born “otters”. They usually start out as some form of a pup and may briefly pass through a gay twink phase. As time goes on, they evolve into otters.

Many then remain in this classification for years or transform into wolves or bears.

Body-wise, it’s helpful to think of otters as smaller than bears and cubs.

Examples in everyday language:

My favorite otter is Scott Caan.
He’s not a wolf, he’s an otter!
That guy is one hot otter.


The term gay otter appears to have entered the gay lexicon sometime during the early to mid-1980’s. In the early 1990’s, “otter” had become popularized with wide spread use.

The exact etiology of this affectionate gay classification name remains unclear.

It has been theorized that gay otters are an offshoot of gay bears; a term that is linked to a 1970 article appearing in the Advocate entitled: Who’s in the Zoo? It was authored by George Mazzei.


The rationale behind the otter label is fairly simple. Body-wise, “bears” are typically large and hairy. “Wolves” are often hairy but lean and muscular. In the middle, you have “otters”, which are hairy but not super built but athletic.

It is for this reason that within the gay-o-sphere, otters represent the largest group of gay men.


Only a handful of groups within the gay spectrum have a flag. The best known and most easily recognizable is the bear flag. It has a multi-color scheme made up of browns, tans, blacks, whites and grays. You will usually see a bear paw print on the upper left corner.

Until recently, wolves didn’t have a flag. That changed in 2015 when one was created one for them, inspired by the traditional bear flag since wolves are considered offshoots.

Astonishingly, otters had no flag either. This despite their large numbers within the gay male community. Not wanting this group to feel left out, Gay Pop Buzz also created a flag for them in 2015. See below.

Please note, I (Ben) have never seen this wolf or otter flag and if you know anything about them, I’d love to hear from you!


As highlighted earlier, gay otters are typically hairy with thin to thick athletic builds. Most have hair covering the torso to varying degrees.

FYI: There are smoothish otters, which commonly is a result of trimming hair through manscaping with a body groomer.

Other body traits include:

Waistline in proportion to torso.
Flat to smallish stomach region.
Athletic frame but not a body builder
Can be muscular
May have noticeable bubble butt features
Often has butt hair unless removed by shaving
It’s critical to bear in mind that not all otters wear facial hair. Many do but it is not a required characteristic for this classification.

FYI: By definition, all wolves must facial hair. This is a key distinction between the two typologies as otters can have smooth faces.


Because the defining feature of gay otters is body hair, it can be difficult to determine classification simply by looking at them. Let’s face it, most guys where [sic] shirts so you can’t see if they have torso fur.

However, there are facial markers to look for. While not universal, many otters:

Have angular faces with defining features.
May have facial hair, such as a beard.
Some wear goatees.
Some have short facial stubble (one-day growth).
Some are completely clean shaven.


Keep in mind that otters are an offshoot of the gay bear community and cousins with wolves. Since masculinity is a marker of both typologies, gay otters are considered manly.

Apparel for otters is really all over the place so there’s no right or wrong dress code for this type. Characteristically, you will see otters wearing:

T-shirts of all types
Blue jeans
Button down shirts
Baseball caps
Gym shoes and sneakers
Tank tops and “wife beaters”
Boxers or briefs (some go commando)
Leather attire
Parkas and ski jackets
Construction boots


When assessing for a man’s otter features, it’s important to not only examine his physical features traits but also his behavioral mannerisms.

Part of what makes an otter and otter, at least in gaydom, is his playful personality. That’s because this body type directly borrows from north American otters who are known for this trait.

While it’s hard to paint with a wide brush, it is fair to say that many of these furry creatures hold common characteristics.

Typically, gay otters are:

Fun loving
Full of energy
Sexually playful
Many love water


If you consider yourself an otter, it is important that you partake in certain hygiene focused activities involving body hair and skin.

Below, we’ve offered some tips to help you be the sexiest otter that you can be.

Younger Gay Otters

If you consider yourself a younger gay otter (under 40) consider these skin care pointers to help you look more attractive to potential mates.

Older Gay Otters

If you happen to be 40 or over, we’ve put together an Otter/DILF guide to help you keep what you’ve got and build upon your sexiness.

Gay Otters and Body Hair

Otters, just like their wolf and bear counterparts, need to be mindful of body hair. For some, this means manscaping is key to staying well groomed.

In recent years, there’s been a movement to buck the entire trimming thing and simply go natural. The choice is obviously up to you.

FYI: If you are noticing greys around your private parts starting to crop up, it’s perfectly natural. As we age, our body hair gradually turns from colored shades to white.

If you want to look younger and keep color around your private parts, it never hurts to use a special dye.


There’s no way we can list all of the male celebrities who fit into the otter classification. Below, we’ve listed several well-known personalities to help you create a mental mosaic.

And we acknowledge that some of these have crossover characteristics with other types, such as wolves.

Daniel Radcliffe (European Otter)
Liam Hemsworth (former otter now wolf)
Nick Jonas (trying to become a wolf)
Chris Pine (younger years)
Brody Jenner (otter and wolf features)


In the wider gay male community, there exists a plethora of myths associated with gay otters. Some came about because of confusion. Others are borne from a place of ignorance.

Here are some of the “biggies” that seem to heavily circulate. Remember, none are true.

Gay otters are smooth.
You can’t be an otter and a daddy.
All otters are bottoms.
Otters only like other otters.
Black guys can’t be otters.
There are no Asian otters.
You must have back hair to be an otter.
Most otters have smallish packages.
To be an otter, you must have blue eyes.


We recognize that some people within the LGBTQ spectrum find the use of labels to be distasteful. We certainly respect that viewpoint.

However, we’d also like to say that an argument exists for using these terms and for preserving them as long as possible.


We hope you enjoyed reading our ultimate guide to gay otters. Here at the blog, we dig all creatures within the gay classification spectrum.

But I’d be a liar if we didn’t say that we absolutely love our otters!

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FURRY FRIDAY: Art of Silverjow


For almost all former Furry Fridays, it features photos of bearded men. For this year, I’d like to start introducing artwork of bearded men including drawings, cartoons and digital artwork.

For this edition, I’m showing the artwork of the artist Silverjow. His work is gay-themed men in sweet and sexy situations, many incorporating holidays and seasons as well as fictional characters from movies and comic books. While most of the men he draws aren’t hairy-bodied, he does draw a lot of bearded men.

You can follow Silverjow and see more of his artwork on Twitter, Instagram, Deviantart and Patreon.

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So I am out of the sling. I am supposed to reach and stretch. X-rays looked good but I don’t see that they can tell anything from those: you can’t see rotator cuffs on an X-ray (dr all but admitted that part was a waste of time). I have four to five weeks of physical therapy ahead.

Now get a load of these work restrictions!: no raising my arm overhead, or lifting more than one pound. It means I can basically lift a peb. But I don’t use a pen at work. I lift things.

I have passed information on to my boss at work. I cannot imagine what I can possibly do at my work. So now I am waiting to find out from work what they want me to do next. Whether they actually want me to go into work on Friday or Monday, or wait for the physical therapy.

I have to tell you I’m a little freaked out!!!

The arm is acting very weird. Fingers twitching and stuff. It was explained that this is very common, and there was some muscle atrophy and that I’m going to have to exercise it. And of course the PT.

Doctor said I could drive now. Well get this! My car was at the Fix-It place. I drove it home, which was only about five or six blocks. I could not reach my right arm high enough to put the key in the ignition. I basically drove the car home left-handed. I can lift my arm. But reaching out is a joke!

I cannot imagine how I could do anything at work.

By the way, just going to the doctor, stopping by the bank to sign some paperwork, and driving the car 5 blocks home wore me out so much that after I ate something for lunch I went right to sleep. Slept for over an hour, close to two.

I think I’m just going to have to deal with the fact that this is going to take awhile to heal. And hope and trust that there was a reason for all of this. And that one day I will look back at this and be glad that I did it. But the arm is still very freaky. I wish I could explain. so you can understand what I mean.

I will just get as much rest as I can….

And trust that the Universe is unfolding exactly as it should.

Thanks to all of you who give your love advice thoughts and prayers..

💞 BG “Ben” Thomas 💕

RE-BLOG: Actor DJ Qualls Comes Out as Gay

This just out today from LGBT Nation….!

Actor DJ Qualls Comes Out as Gay

The “Road Trip” and “Breaking Bad” actor tweeted that he was “tired of worrying about what it would do to my career.”
By Alex Bollinger Monday, January 13, 2020

Actor DJ Qualls came out as gay in a tweet he sent from the stage of a comedy club.

Qualls – who is known for his roles in movies like Road Trip, The New Guy, Hustle & Flow, and The Core and on television shows like Breaking Bad, Scrubs, Lost, CSI, and The Big Bang Theory – tweeted “Yep, I’m gay,” a reference to Ellen’s famous Time magazine cover from when she came out.

“Been gay this whole time,” Qualls tweeted. “Tired of worrying about what people would think of me. Tired of worrying about what it would do to my career.”

Qualls has not discussed his dating life in interviews in the past, but E! dug up a 2012 tweet where he disagreed with the Pope on marriage equality.

“Disagree w/the Pope saying gay marriage is a threat to world peace & gender identity but agree w/the gown he wore while saying it,” he tweeted.

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RE-BLOG; More People Identifying as Bi-Sexual — YES!

I stumbled on this little article this morning. It’s over two years old. I’m betting the stats have gone uo. Because when the stats were so low it made no sense. Along time ago Kinsey did his study, released the Kinsey scale, that magical scale where we “all” fall somewhere along that scale of 0 to 6, with 0’s being absolutelycause it totally heterosexual and 6’s being absolutely totally homosexual, and everyone else falls in-between, with various degrees of bisexuality. Just a little bit or bi-curious, to fully flip-of-the-coin bisexual. That’s a whole lot of bisexuals.

There are some angry people, a lot of times it’s gay men, who say that those people who claim they’re bisexual just don’t have the courage to come out as fully gay. I’ve always thought that was bullcrap. I think it’s just those generations who were afraid to even admit they were gay because it was dangerous. Or you had to give up everything, family and friends, to live a life where they could have same-sex experiances. So when they heard some people say they liked both, they wanted to believe it was just that the guy was too chicken to come out as gay. What seems to be happening now is that there’s a lot of people who are afraid to come out as bisexual, rather than gay or straight.

Interesting…. this article isn’t the best in the world, but it’s a start. If you know any better ones out there let me know! Continue reading

FURRY FRIDAY: Black and White


Black and white photography has many qualities that make it stand out from color photos: the contrasting of shadow and light, seeing the sharp contours and patterns of the subject, and evoking a different focus than you might get from a color photography.

This edition shows photos of bearded men in black and white and how the lack of color can make some striking and engaging pictures. Vote for your favorites!


Thanks to Mikah McCullough for contributing some of the pictures on this edition 🙂

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