FURRY FRIDAY: Bearded Kisses


I’m taking over Furry Friday. Today’s edition features bearded men kissing one another because there’s nothing quite like having two furry faces rubbing against one another, beards intertwined.

Vote for your favorite furry kisses!

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FURRY FRIDAY: Summer Beards Part 2


Noah here, having scheduled this week’s Furry Friday ahead of time because we’re enjoying our time at Midwest Men’s Festival for our yearly retreat away from “reality”.

This Furry Friday continues with the summertime theme since we’re out at camp soaking up the sun and enjoying the water, trying to keep cool during these hot summer days!

Vote for your favorite summer beards! You can vote for more than one!

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Recently I was put in Facebook for posting some PG pictures. I couldn’t believe it. So I thought I would share right here the post that put me in there. Beautiful pictures of men in nature. Nudes yes, but you couldn’t see their genitals and I can’t figure out why Facebook threw me in jail. At least it was only a day, but I was kept from making some timely posts during that 24 hours.

My buddy Paul Wickham had this to say about that post: “Bloody ridiculous. I see, violence, sexism and misogyny on my feed every day. I saw what you posted, no more offensive than a holiday beach pic. Not that naked bodies are ever actually offensive, sex is not offensive, choice of partner is not offensive. Facebook needs to cop on to what truly offensive posts are.”

I think that pretty much says it all.

However…. WARNING! …. I’ve added a few pictures and there are a few here that Facebook would definitely find objectionable! Maybe even a set of genitals….

I hope you enjoy.
Gentle Ben

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Or is it? Actually, today is the day…for me!

Some time today we through the rest of the stuff in the van and head out to camp. R told us he was going to go ahead and stay at camp, and I was looking forward to it. It hasn’t been just R and me in close to a year, and there have been plenty of Ben and Noah times. It would have been nice. But R has come to realize there is too much he wants to do before being *at* MMF for ten days. And I respect that.

Which also means I will spend the night alone at camp which I’ve done for years and come to like it. Although I won’t be alone. Through the years, lots of men have started coming early. I know of at least two others who arrive today, although one will set up his camp and then head over to see his family a couple days before heading back for Tuesday, the official first day. But the point is, there will be other Faeries onsite if I’m feeling lonely.

Tonight I will be naked under the stars. And it doesn’t matter that I’ve gained almost half my weight back. It won’t stay on for long. I know what I want from life, and it’s to have a long one. But what has happened is that I am more and more accepting who and what I am. And I am not Skinny Manny. I am not going to look like a superhero at 59. I have the body I have, and I need to love myself and my body. So despite the fact that I don’t have Chris Hemsworth’s body—which I wouldn’t hate—I have to really get it deep that Chris Hemsworth already has Chris Hemsworth’s body. And probably has to work a frig of a lot of hours to keep it.

And most of all, as Oscar Wilde once said: “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

That is what I hope to truly take into myself this Midwest Men’s Festival. Truly love myself. And when I come home, I am going to be ready to finally truly lead the life I want. The biggest part of that is to get away from the hell hole where I work and to be a full-time writer. As well as husband and father to two wonderful women. And jokester too. And a person who will eradicate and exorcise any and all forms of racism, phobia and misogyny from his soul!

Because in this world today which includes some so-called “leaders” that are so much of the problem, there’s no room for hate of any kind. There is only room for love.

It is time. More than time. I’m ready.

That’s what Faeries are all about. Creating FABulousness and beauty and love. That is why our camps are filled with lights and veils and fabric and lace. Beauty. There is too much hate in the world.

Yup. Ready.

Anyone want to join me on becoming who they’re supposed to be?

Gentle Ben
(that’s my Faerie name!)


So this is a little video that my husband R put together for me a few years ago.

What you are seeing is the path outside our cabin during the Midwest Men’s Festival. You can watch this and take a lovely walk through our camp outside out cabin and see the sarongs we sell as a community service (we’ve asked if we should stop and were threatened with our lives–LOL!)

This video makes me smile and tear up a little. You can see Sarah Jane wandering here and there and relaxing in the shade.

Many of the days temperatures reach the nineties and even lower 100s. Therefor, wearing as little as possible is the thing to do! Sarongs are the choice of outerwear and we’ve taken to selling them for really cheap prices, just enough to try and break even. We buy them, making sure there is only one of each because, after all, no one wants to be wearing the same thing as someone else! This is gay men after all! LOL!

Midwest Men’s Festival was the inspiration for my novel, “Summer Lover.” The main character finds a couple of men who do just what we do. Sell sarongs. At first he’s too chicken to get one. He sees it as wearing a dress and that is the LAST thing he’s going to do. But with a little encouragement, he does buy one and finds out how freeing it really is.

I hope you enjoy!
Peace and Love,
BG “Ben” Thomas


First I showed him the fourth season episode Stand Up For Ourselves, which is the episode in which Michael and Emmett go to a gay Radical Faerie gathering. I recommend it to everyone who is curious about Midwest Men’s Festival. They aren’t the same, but the episode is close. Then we watched the Pilot, this time on Amazon, and I was infuriated that they changed all the music to horrible stuff, just horrible! That means no Proud by Heather Small, nor the hot remake of Let’s Hear it for the Boy.

But I am happy to report that Noah seemed to like them! More episodes when we get home?

Screen caps from the episode Stand Up For Ourselves are beyond the clip and below. Be careful! One is VERY not safe for work!


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It was one year ago that Noah Willoughby came to live with us. Boy, had that been a hell of a week too! Stressful beyond words!

First I was in terror that he’d change his mind! I was in fear that he would realize he’d made a terrible mistake and was going to decide he wanted to stay with his ex in Hawaii. I was stressed he’d miss his plane and how complicated that would be because coincidentally, a year ago today was right before we were heading to Midwest Men’s Festival and there we would be at a campground with no WiFi and really no cellphone reception so how would we even know when/if he was coming?

Then the REAL true stress was that R had some health issues and was in the hospital! Scary stuff that turned out to all be okay, but it was the first time that R had been in the hospital instead of me. It is quite a thing to be on the other side! And that also meant we thought I was going to have to go get Noah from the airport without R, and while I could do that, we’d wanted the magick of us both picking him up. And of course we didn’t know when he’d get out of the hospital and how that would effect him going to MMF!

As to the why it’s a coincidence that this was also a year ago before we were going to MMF, you have to understand the dates move around. The way you figure out when MMF is, is that you find the last Thursday of the month of July and that is the last day/10th day of Festival. Ten days before is the first day. So last year and this years MMF winds up in the middle of the month. Next year it will be the last ten days of the month exactly.

Anyway, all those naysayers who said the Three Bears would never last were — W.R.O.N.G. — wrong! We have grown strong and we will be around a long time to come and I am happier than I’ve ever been and I know it is safe to say…we are all!

Love and Peace
BG “Ben” Thomas