GAY PRIDE MONTH; Day Twenty-Seven, Special Guest Jamie Fessenden

Today my guest, speaking on this special year and the fiftieth anniversary of the Stonewall uprising and what the world knows as the birth of Gay Pride, is my special friend Jamie Fessenden. And you are in for a treat.

Jamie is a man who will always keep you guessing and always be a source of the unexpected. That is a small part of what I like so much about him. Five him free reign to do something, and he always gives me what I didn’t expect. For instance, when I asked him to write a story for my anthology A More Perfect Union, to write a story about same-sex marriage told from the perspective of a legally married gay man who figured he never would be allowed to be legally married, he turned in a breath taking story that I realized was almost entirely autobiographical. Not what I expect—but perfect.

And when I asked him if he would participate in this celebration of fifty years of Gay Pride, told him that I would appreciate a minimum of 250 words, but he could go on as long as he wanted, guess what Jamie did? Well, unlike my other guests who gave me wonderful essays that ranged from about 250 to 700 words, Jamie gave me just short of 3.000! And I love him for it!

Jamie said to me after sending this essay to me: “Looking at your blog, I can see that mine is far too rambling, compared to the others. Don’t feel you have to use it. It was fun writing it – kind of therapeutic.”

Not use it? Is he crazy? Of course I was using it, and am using it! Because it is long and really tells his truth and his story, and because I hope that it might be “therapeutic” to you as well.

I have so much to say about this man, this wonderful writer, this man who always blows me away with his insights and his pure passion, and the best roommate ever, but if I don’t stop now, my into will be as long as his essay.

I do have to say that Jamie’s participation makes me especially happy since this means that all the “boys” from the A More Perfect Union anthology wrote an essay. Jamie, J. Scott Coatsworth and Michael Murphy (you can read their essays by clicking on their names). Tomorrow you get mine and that really is all four of us!

So, this is it…I am stopping! And letting you go on a read something that should not be missed. Enjoy! I know you will!  Continue reading


Another GLBTQ Happening! And I was expecting to see a lot more on this wonderful day today…but not one so far. Is it complacency already? Is it *yawn* we have the right to marry? I hope the heck not! Marriage equality is important and should not be taken for granted. DID YOU KNOW THAT three states have introduced Bills to ban marriage equality to get it back in front of SCOTUS? Despite the 2015 U.S. Supreme Court ruling legalizing same sex marriage nationwide? Yup! Do not sleep! Remember that people have the power! Pay attention to what your representatives are doing and VOTE!.

Idiots say, what next? Polyamorous marriage? Well I know that R and I would love to be legally married to Noah! What does it hurt anyone?

We have risen so far! We do NOT want to fall! And it could happen!

If you are married today, to a same-sex partner or opposite-sex partner, I hope that you will take their hand today and look them in the eyes and tell them that you love them! I hope that you remember to be grateful for what you have! And never take it for granted!

Peace and Namasté!
BG “Ben” Thomas

GAY PRIDE MONTH; Day Seven, Special Guest BA Tortuga

Oh happy day! Look who my guest is today! The awesome and immortal BA Tortuga! I danced around the room when she not only said, “yes,” to joining in on my celebration of Gay Pride month, but, “Absolutely. When do you need it by?” 🙂 And when I said, “How soon can you get it to me?” she got it to me in about a day and a half! Made my day!

So without further ado, I present BA Torguta’s very personal and sweet coming out story. I dare you not to be touched by this one.

Take it away, BA!


Coming Out

by BA Tortuga

I always feel a little weird when people ask me about Continue reading

GAY PRIDE MONTH, Day Two: Historic New York Gay Bar Stonewall Inn

Today’s Gay Pride for Fifty Years post comes from MSNBC. Enjoy!

Historic New York Gay Bar Stonewall Inn Gains Landmark Status

By Kitty Saba, Caroline Silber and Cristian Santana

Hailed as one of the birthplaces of the modern gay rights movement, Stonewall Inn has solidified its place in history after being granted landmark status in New York City.

….in a unanimous vote by the New York City Landmarks Preservation Commission, the city opted to designate the iconic Greenwich Village bar as an individual landmark, marking the first time a structure has been given landmark status due to its importance to the LGBT community.

In the late 1960s, Stonewall Inn provided a social space for gays and lesbians at a time when serving alcohol to the gay community was barred. During the early morning hours of July 28, 1969, the bar found itself at a crossroads between whiskey and history, when patrons refused to vacate the grounds after a police raid. The patrons were joined by friends, strangers and members of the community to protest the treatment by police. Protesters clashed with police on and off for days.  Continue reading

To Every Mother and Everyone Who Has Mothered: HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.
~ Tenneva Jordan

The phrase “working mother” is redundant.
~ Jane Sellman

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.
~ Rajneesh

I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.
~ Abraham Lincoln

Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly.
~ Ambrose Bierce

Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.
~ Marion C. Garretty

Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease.
~ Lisa Alther

I love my mother as the trees love water and sunshine – she helps me grow, prosper, and reach great heights.
~ Adabella Radici

[A] mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled.
~ Emily Dickinson

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.
~ Washington Irving

Happy Mother’s Day to everyone out there who is a Mother, by whatever means that they mother. You are beautiful and the world revolves around You.

BG “Ben” Thomas

PS: That’s my Mom and me in the middle!

In This Life…Please Keep Looking for the Silver Lining!

Today a friend of mine sent me a link that turned out to be titled, “Dad Charged With Intentionally Shooting 2-Year-Old Son In The Face With A Shotgun.”

I was stunned. And I did not read it. But I did ask him why he sent it to me.

His answer was, “I sent it to a lot of people. Because people need to see the reality of what’s going on in the world.”

And when I asked him why people needed to know about his “reality,” he responded with, “What are you 5? Sorry I sent it to you!”

I could only say, “WTF?”

His reply: “Why why why? Lol, that’s why I asked that. I just sent out a mass text. I think it’s sad and crazy how our world is getting. I just read yesterday at least three cases of kids killing their parents. And a 5 year old boy where I live was killed by his parents. And now one about these kids killed their parents video games!!!!

My reply was this….  . Continue reading

Re-Post: A Rare Bald Eagle Trio—Two Dads and a Mom

I found this article and I just had to share it with you. It’s not MMM, but I loved it all the same. Is it polyamory? You decide. If you prefer, you can find the original article by clicking right HERE.

Starr, Valor II, and Valor I (left to right) sit on their nest in Illinois. Their chicks are lucky to have so much parental care! Photo: Stewards of the Upper Mississippi River Refuge

A Rare Bald Eagle Trio—Two Dads and a Mom—Captivates Webcam Fans

Even after their first mate died, the two males remained faithful to each other, and are now raising three eaglets with a new female named Starr.
By Ally Hirschlag — April 11, 2019 — Audubon

In a tall tree situated on the Mississippi River in Fulton, Illinois, three eagles, a female and two males, are looking after three downy eaglets—keeping them warm, feeding them freshly caught catfish, and herding them away from the edge of the nest. The three parents take turns hunting and nest-sitting, often calling to one another for assistance.

Bald Eagles aren’t a rare sight at Upper Mississippi River National Wildlife Refuge, but three of them tending to the same nest is, especially when Continue reading

Re-Blog: Bits and Pieces. Dribbles and Drabbles. Of Health—And Husbands—And a HUGE Need for Advice!

March 27th, 2019, I posted the following to Dani Elle Maas’s lovely blog, Love Bytes. After a week, I thought I would re-post it right here. However, I highly recommend her blog, and you can find it by clicking RIGHT HERE!

Until then…here it is!

Bits and Pieces. Dribbles and Drabbles. Of Health—And Husbands—And a HUGE Need for Advice!

Hello Readers! I’m back. And apologies to all, especially Dani for my absence.

Life in the last six months has been…interesting to say the least. Good, bad, and … life. So, I thought I’d share a bit of it…and then I need to ask you for some advice.

In December I had a heart attack. Luckily my husbands got me to the hospital and stents were placed in my heart and the good news is that there was no real damage and I will probably never need open heart surgery. It is something I’ve expected to need since 1998, when I had my first heart attack at thirty-eight. But the myocardial infarction was caused by the stent I was given in ’98 becoming dislodged. Stents have come a long way in twenty years. I really only have the best in store for me now! All blockages taken care of. But despite a month of not having to go to work, and lots of rest, it just didn’t lend itself to writing.

Have I mentioned I have two husbands now? We’re about to celebrate a Continue reading

So The New Guy Ate This Morning!

He wouldn’t really eat yesterday except for Dollar Tree bacon treats that can’t be too good for him. But bribing him we were. It’s not surprising he didn’t want to eat. That’s pretty normal. He *is* terribly shy and quite. Not aloof really, like the guy at the shelter said. It’s hard to explain. I think he’s…mourning maybe? A little…broken?

I mean he did spend *years* in a puppy mill. Then he was adopted by an elderly couple and apparently bonded to the man, who passed away. The wife couldn’t “handle” him, whatever the heck *that* means. She brought him back. She said he doesn’t bond with anyone. But I don’t know….

I think he’s hesitant. I think he’s…afraid? Like, don’t get used to this bub, it won’t last. But guess what “Bub?” It will.

You know the thing I like so much about dog is Continue reading