GAY PRIDE MONTH, Day Six: The Effect That AIDS Has Had On My Life

In 2008, I wrote the following post in my Live Journal (does anyone remember Live Journal?). A lot of people reacted to it and so I updated it and reposted it in 2017, and then, knowing full well that I can’t spend the month focusing on Gay Pride and not talk about AIDS. So I’ve looked at that essay again, and sharing it with you once once more….

When I was barely twenty-one, I dated this beautiful high-school boy. Oh, my! He was so pretty, you wanted to cry. Lovely eyes, and golden-brown hair and a beautiful heart to match. Don’t worry, he told me he was legal, although just barely. I fell head-over-heels in…limerence. I knew even then that I wasn’t in-love yet, but with a little time…it was easily heading that direction and it could have turned into love with ease.

His name was David (Greeknameopolis). We met in the Walden Bookstore I was working in. I was at the register and it looked to me like some kid was sneaking a look at a Playboy or something, which we weren’t supposed to let kids do. And he looked like a kid, believe me!

I sorta snuck up behind him to my surprise, it was Playgirl he was looking at! Not Playboy! Before I could say a word, I got a look at him and well, he took my breath away… Young, but not a kid. A true vital young man. So instead of kicking him out of the store, I whispered, “If you give me the money, I’ll buy that for you…”

He looked up at me (yes, up!) with those big doe eyes and with a trembling voice said Continue reading


GAY PRIDE MONTH, Day One: Fifty Years of Gay Pride!

Fifty years ago this month gay people finally said, “No!” The Stonewall Inn was raided once again and a bunch of drag queens and butch dykes said, “No!”

It turned into a riot that wound up lasting for five days. Fifty years ago the gay rights movement really began. Because it was with fists and fire and shouting and fighting back. Thank goodness the seeds had been planted earlier with groups like Mattachine Society and Daughters of Bilitis. But it wasn’t until blood was shed, police blood, that gay and lesbian people let the world know that we had had enough.

In honor of that, this month, I am going to be making a number of posts of essays I’m writing, posts of personal experiences, and re-posts from other sources!

Long live all people and long live us telling those who don’t like us, “We’re here! We’re queer! Get used to it!”

And I will start things by posting pictures from Gay Pride here in Kansas City, which is my husband Noah’s very first Gay Pride. Noah and Iwere both so sad that out husband “R” had to work (his work shift is nights now, and the first weekend of the month is mandatory overtime), but he gave his blessing for us to go.

Thank you, “R!” We love you!  Continue reading

To Every Mother and Everyone Who Has Mothered: HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.
~ Tenneva Jordan

The phrase “working mother” is redundant.
~ Jane Sellman

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.
~ Rajneesh

I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.
~ Abraham Lincoln

Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly.
~ Ambrose Bierce

Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.
~ Marion C. Garretty

Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease.
~ Lisa Alther

I love my mother as the trees love water and sunshine – she helps me grow, prosper, and reach great heights.
~ Adabella Radici

[A] mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled.
~ Emily Dickinson

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.
~ Washington Irving

Happy Mother’s Day to everyone out there who is a Mother, by whatever means that they mother. You are beautiful and the world revolves around You.

BG “Ben” Thomas

PS: That’s my Mom and me in the middle!

In This Life…Please Keep Looking for the Silver Lining!

Today a friend of mine sent me a link that turned out to be titled, “Dad Charged With Intentionally Shooting 2-Year-Old Son In The Face With A Shotgun.”

I was stunned. And I did not read it. But I did ask him why he sent it to me.

His answer was, “I sent it to a lot of people. Because people need to see the reality of what’s going on in the world.”

And when I asked him why people needed to know about his “reality,” he responded with, “What are you 5? Sorry I sent it to you!”

I could only say, “WTF?”

His reply: “Why why why? Lol, that’s why I asked that. I just sent out a mass text. I think it’s sad and crazy how our world is getting. I just read yesterday at least three cases of kids killing their parents. And a 5 year old boy where I live was killed by his parents. And now one about these kids killed their parents video games!!!!

My reply was this….  . Continue reading

Re-Blog: Bits and Pieces. Dribbles and Drabbles. Of Health—And Husbands—And a HUGE Need for Advice!

March 27th, 2019, I posted the following to Dani Elle Maas’s lovely blog, Love Bytes. After a week, I thought I would re-post it right here. However, I highly recommend her blog, and you can find it by clicking RIGHT HERE!

Until then…here it is!

Bits and Pieces. Dribbles and Drabbles. Of Health—And Husbands—And a HUGE Need for Advice!

Hello Readers! I’m back. And apologies to all, especially Dani for my absence.

Life in the last six months has been…interesting to say the least. Good, bad, and … life. So, I thought I’d share a bit of it…and then I need to ask you for some advice.

In December I had a heart attack. Luckily my husbands got me to the hospital and stents were placed in my heart and the good news is that there was no real damage and I will probably never need open heart surgery. It is something I’ve expected to need since 1998, when I had my first heart attack at thirty-eight. But the myocardial infarction was caused by the stent I was given in ’98 becoming dislodged. Stents have come a long way in twenty years. I really only have the best in store for me now! All blockages taken care of. But despite a month of not having to go to work, and lots of rest, it just didn’t lend itself to writing.

Have I mentioned I have two husbands now? We’re about to celebrate a Continue reading

Very Important News: Re-Posting My Husband Noah’s Facebook Post From Today

I was going to make this post, but Noah Willoughby said it so elloquently and so well I’ve decided instead simply to post his Facebook post from 8:35 CST this morning….

Moved to Medellín, Antioquia, Colombia

Today with “R” and B.g. Thomas in Medellín, Antioquia, Colombia

Well, it’s official. We’re moving!

It’s been very difficult not saying anything, especially when Continue reading